It’s something I know I’ve experienced my whole life. People are okay catering to bigots’ feelings because they don’t want to get confrontational. This just makes bigots feel like what they’re saying is true, so they continue their shitty behavior. When someone does confront their behavior, it blows up because the bigot isn’t used to hearing someone disagree. Now the person who called things out is the bad guy. Never the fuckwad who thinks “That’s just locker room talk.”

“It is not enough to be not racist in a racist society. One must be actively anti-racist.”