No matter how hard I try to read up on this or ask for people’s help, I cannot tell when another person is attracted to me. And I feel bad about it, because what am I supposed to do if I want to do anything flirtatious or date? Trial and error? Just try it with anyone I think is attractive until I learn what the patterns are? Sounds like a quick way to be seen as That Guy. Even if I just ask, that’s still a pretty forward move, letting someone know I think of them like that. So I really do not know what to do there, and it upsets me.

  • Keld [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    24·
    1 month ago

    love languages

    I just want to point out that this concept was invented by a misogynist evangelical baptist to do boomer wife-bad style couples advice. I know that’s not what you’re doing. But just in case anyone starts looking into it.

    • Beetle [hy/hym]@hexbear.netEnglish
      9·
      1 month ago

      Oof I didn’t know this 😅 Is there another way to communicate the concept of how people communicate their attraction to people in different ways?

      • Keld [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
        16·
        1 month ago

        I think “people communicate differently” is as succinct as you can really get. There does need to be a good term for “The way in which you communicate affection”, and love languages might be it for now, but its hard to separate from its terrible roots.