You might be confused because the person I’m replying to said they want “less rules” while I said “so you want them to play by your rules instead?”.
I phrased it this way because expecting your peers to deal with a greater range of behavior from you places no less of a burden on them than following the original rules does. Its not “less rules”, its different rules.
Or, to put it another way, if you’re a kid playing hide and seek with a bunch of other kids and you say “I should be able to change my hiding spot while the seeker is walking around”, you’re not ‘adding more freedom’ to the game, you’re making a different game.
To be clear I have no horse in this race, I’ve never been to this event. But to me someone showing up to something someone else created, that other people are presumably enjoying the way it is, and saying “it should be this way instead and if you don’t like it go to Disney Land” just comes across as really entitled and bitchy. I wouldn’t have said anything if they had said “I would prefer it this way”.
Something that everyone should have learned on the playground is that you can’t expect to force other kids to play the way you want them to, but that you also don’t have to play with them if you don’t like their game.
Reading is hard, isn’t it?
You might be confused because the person I’m replying to said they want “less rules” while I said “so you want them to play by your rules instead?”.
I phrased it this way because expecting your peers to deal with a greater range of behavior from you places no less of a burden on them than following the original rules does. Its not “less rules”, its different rules.
Or, to put it another way, if you’re a kid playing hide and seek with a bunch of other kids and you say “I should be able to change my hiding spot while the seeker is walking around”, you’re not ‘adding more freedom’ to the game, you’re making a different game.
To be clear I have no horse in this race, I’ve never been to this event. But to me someone showing up to something someone else created, that other people are presumably enjoying the way it is, and saying “it should be this way instead and if you don’t like it go to Disney Land” just comes across as really entitled and bitchy. I wouldn’t have said anything if they had said “I would prefer it this way”.
Something that everyone should have learned on the playground is that you can’t expect to force other kids to play the way you want them to, but that you also don’t have to play with them if you don’t like their game.
Where did they say that? That’s certainly not what I understood when I read