• AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net
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    6 days ago

    Homochrondriac is actually a great word for people (usually men) who restrict their behaviour in absurd ways to avoid being perceived as gay. I used to know a man who used to drink neat whiskey, even though he hated it, because he didn’t feel “allowed” to drink what his tastes preferred (tooty fruity cocktails) because they would make him seem gay, apparently. He was a homochrondriac.

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        That is what he would typically drink, because he did find that it made the taste more tolerable (plus he felt that it was even more masculine than just whiskey and ice). As someone who really enjoys a good Old Fashioned, I find it deeply tragic that he would force himself to drink something he merely found “tolerable”.

        It’s very silly. Some of the masculine people I know are guys who are secure in their own masculinity. They drink whatever beverages they like, they paint their nails or wear eyeliner if it would suit their outfit, they wear a tutu and have a tea party with a young child — in short, they integrate masculinity into who they are in a healthy manner, rather than living their life subordinate to some abstract, impossible ideal.

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      I’ve always ragged on those guys to their face. Back in the 90s I’d wear pink oxfords and my coworkers would joke about me looking gay. “I’m secure in my sexuality. You worry about shit like that?”

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    It’s funny because that’s actually the original understanding of the term homophobia. It’s why it’s a phobia and not queerism or similar (a la racism).

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    I like how it’s “special appearance”. Like you’re a cameo that’s going to have the audience going “Sara’s in this? No way!”

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      7 days ago

      There’s one I love and can’t find of this bigger bearish redneck guy saying “For a billion dollars? I’d be spelling my name like Cardi B”