I don’t know how to explain to you that linking an accusation of fatphobia when I have been in this thread constantly defending fatness as ‘not a moral failing,’ lost family to fatphobia, and experienced assumed fatphobia from people who don’t even know me is extremely patronizing.
I don’t think they do [suggest being overweight causes no issues], but the well has been poisoned elsewhere by preemptively assuming that if we even present this as a societal issue and a negative outcome that we’re ‘concern trolling’ and secretly only care because we hate fat people.
I grew up in Mississippi. Huge food desert, poor population, awful education, terribly obese, and the entire country is constantly being shitty to the people there like they chose it. And the healthcare sucks because doctors don’t try to treat fat people. So sure, it’s not my body, it’s not a literal warzone, and there are other behaviors that need to die, but I have a lot of proximity to this and some of the people I’ve grown up with have essentially no mobility and are constantly having health scares. It’s not just a ‘so what’ to me, these were my neighbors and the common perception is that they experienced some sort of moral failing and not that they are being exploited into an early grave. It’s not my body, but I care about more than just my own body.
Once my balding got really bad and before I got my hair transplant, I used to think about my hair every. single. day.
Wears on you to see your own hair fall out in a way nothing else does. And people don’t understand how little comfort “you look good without hair is.” Sure, I appreciate that you think I look good like this, but the person I see when I look in the mirror isn’t me.
Shit does suck, but sounds like this isn’t just regular balding and you’re being proactive so I think you’re doing everything you need to be doing to turn this into a best case scenario.