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  • Good for you? Again, talk to basically any trans woman who has been transitioning for a while and almost all of them have an Ew-phoria story they can tell you where they were a wild Gender Affirming Sexism appeared. Hell, I know several that regularly deploy Tactical Misogyny™ in their own self-deprecating humor because it’s gender-affirming.

    Humans are fucking weird little gremlin beasts.


  • The joke is that you’d think the reactions would be switched because getting called pretty is generally the nice thing and there dishwasher comment is usually meant as a sexist jab. But there’s a phenomenon among trans people in general but in this case among trans women in particular where especially early on in transition they tend to get very happy at experiencing the garden variety sexism that’s usually reserved for their aligned gender because it means the other people are seeing them as that gender rather than their agab and treating them as such.


  • It’s kinda funny. My partner and I literally couldn’t afford to do this and I had to be a stay at home parent for our oldest. He’s autistic and his special needs meant that daycare for him cost more than I could possibly reasonably make. Like this was back in 2016 before she became disabled herself and needed me available 24/7 but I would have needed to make like I think it was $17 an hour full time just to cover daycare and transportation? So since she had a way better work history than me being a few years older and having been a mid-level government employee back in her home state before she moved while I was just a 2 associate degree having IT grad it made much more sense for me to stay home.


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    Yeah I started getting that feeling when they went from 12 year olds being entirely unimportant and nobody was talking about them to saying feminists have been talking about this for a hundred years but I only care now because some reactionary grifter is saying it.

    This shit frustrates me so much about the Online Left at times I swear. It feels like so much of Online Lefty politics is fucking LARP, and virtue signaling. Like a lot of these people’s politics begins and ends with “Well I’m already doing the Good Thing™ so I shouldn’t have to engage in this. Everyone else is The Problem and should just do the Good Thing™ like me.”


  • If you agree that it’s happening, why do you minimize the statement by saying that 12 year old boys aren’t young men? Is it really so hard to leverage a win from even an imperfect messenger? I feel like if I disliked a guy but he happened to be saying a correct thing I’d leverage it into getting people to care about my cause.

    Like maybe leading with how feminists have been talking about how reactionary forces prey on young men to perpetuate the patriarchal structure? Rather than saying fuck this guy he’s bad the person he’s responding to didn’t even mention 12 year old boys. Like… if we both agree that the right going after 12 year old boys is a problem, why are you sitting here arguing about some “reactionary grifter” that made up not even a quarter of the post?


  • 12-year olds aren’t “young men”

    Respectfully when I know for a fact that what this guy is talking about is happening because I’ve watched it happen to dozens of kids that age in my life and constantly see it in my own feeds because I try to keep my privacy at least a little so the algorithms can never decide if I’m a teen gamer boy they should push Neo-Nazi shit to or a newly out trans girl I could not give less of a fuck what your definition of “young men” is. In fact I think young men is a pretty fair generalization for dudes that could very well be beginning puberty depending on the person. If you’re claiming they weren’t part of the discussion when they very clearly need to be I think that’s a problem.


  • The OOP may not have directly said it in their original post. But when people talk about young men “falling down the alt-right pipeline” it is generally referring to how thoroughly targeted that entire like 12-18 age bracket is with right wing propaganda. You’re usually talking about kids that aren’t old enough to know they’re being taken for a ride yet. So while that person may have been referring to like… idk 18-22 year olds that’s such a huge outlier in the usual discussion that it should be clowned on.

    idk much about the guy you’re talking about, but as someone with a 14 year old that I’ve had to teach to navigate this propaganda he’s accurate in this instance. The way the right talks to these young men is insidious, and the kind of sentiment OOP is espousing here does nothing to stop young men being pulled rightward.