Every generation is peddled two insane concepts:
When they are young, they are told that they have a weird bizarre vernacular which sounds stupid to everyone else.
Then when they are old, they are told young people have a weird bizarre vernacular which sounds stupid to everyone else.
Then you die.
From my pov I think you’re repeating exactly what I said, but I appreciate the additional details.
My last point is that “the design life we choose” is usually dictated by non-engineering forces. A 12th century king can throw resources at a problem. A 20th century governor cannot, and doesn’t care to. They care about the bridge lasting until the end of their term limits.