cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28783084
How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn’t serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.
I’m agender and pansexual so the terms don’t serve me much, but I still know the value of the terms in some situations. Not because of any social gender presentation or political issues, but because of genitals and the fact that many people’s sexuality is not as flexible as mine.
There are both biological and sociological conditioning to be attracted to one set of genitals and repulsed by the other for the majority of people, though not a huge majority. And it’s not easy or socially acceptable to ask someone if they have a penis or a vulva. So these terms are all they have. If we’d get more comfortable expressing our needs, then we can dump the AGAB stuff, because it literally serves no other legitimate purpose I can think of.
It doesn’t aide in identification on documents when a person doesn’t present socially as their AGAB. It doesn’t do much to aide in medical decisions, because it only acts as a starting reference and knowing a person’s genitals would be a better starting place anyway. And the rest depends greatly on blood tests and other organs present which can often be removed for medical reasons and thus again knowing what a person has now is much more important than knowing what a person had at birth for medical purposes. Combine that with forced gender assignment surgeries at birth for many intersex people and it is useless for medicine.
We agree pretty much with all you said, except we think it should be okay to at least say what genital preference is.
Shouldn’t necessarily ask what someone has in their pants. However, should be able to state your own preferences as that’s how boundaries, limits and consent works ioo.
Yeah, totally.

