Oh, yeah, distraction from another show. That I get, just not that often no discernable reason at all.

Boredom with a show is a good reason IMHO. So many shows drag things out when they get popular and don’t hire good writers for the filler.

Yeah, totally.

I’m agender and pansexual so the terms don’t serve me much, but I still know the value of the terms in some situations. Not because of any social gender presentation or political issues, but because of genitals and the fact that many people’s sexuality is not as flexible as mine.

There are both biological and sociological conditioning to be attracted to one set of genitals and repulsed by the other for the majority of people, though not a huge majority. And it’s not easy or socially acceptable to ask someone if they have a penis or a vulva. So these terms are all they have. If we’d get more comfortable expressing our needs, then we can dump the AGAB stuff, because it literally serves no other legitimate purpose I can think of.

It doesn’t aide in identification on documents when a person doesn’t present socially as their AGAB. It doesn’t do much to aide in medical decisions, because it only acts as a starting reference and knowing a person’s genitals would be a better starting place anyway. And the rest depends greatly on blood tests and other organs present which can often be removed for medical reasons and thus again knowing what a person has now is much more important than knowing what a person had at birth for medical purposes. Combine that with forced gender assignment surgeries at birth for many intersex people and it is useless for medicine.

Unethical and hierarchical non-monogamy is risky emotionally, ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy without envy driven rules is not any more or less risky emotionally and can be very rewarding with truly loving partners as you don’t have to rely on a single person to provide things you need when it’s painful for them to be forced into providing those things since you can’t find another partner to provide those things.

Especially bad for ace or disabled people or women with vaginal issues and men with erectile issue when their partner is left sexless, but they need it to be fulfilled for example, or when one partner needs lots of physical touch but the other has trauma related to it, or a partner who loves to worship breasts, but has a partner with very sensitive nipples, but other than these issues the relationships are great. With ENM those things can be fulfilled by other partners while maintaining an even stronger relationship with the first partner.

Still absorbent and will stain from the blood. Not wipeable like a silicone or some other material that I can clean nearly instantly.

This is for protecting the bed and not going through so many expensive “chucks”/absorbent bed pads for minor leakage… I use a bidet, and a spritz bottle with diluted peroxide per my doctor’s recommendation until things heal better, for cleaning myself.

My teens and 20s were similar. I did have one friend off and on in middle and high school, but more because I tolerated him more than others did than because he cared about me. Things improved later in life once I found an extrovert who was good at gathering people and put a lot of effort into being one of the people who shows up to a lot of her events even when my energy is low. I’m AuDHD, and have a very taxing job so it takes a lot, but it’s been well worth it. It also helped that I switched from looking for a partner(s) to looking for friends which might later become partners. Having a partner who isn’t a friend but being obligated to spend a majority of time with them was a big problem.

(I eventually transitioned to ethical non monogamy, but that’s another subject, but for me it meant finding friends and partners was the same thing essentially. Especially when I abandoned the conditioning of relationship escalators, stopped being envious of partners, and stopped needing to hate partners after breaking up.)

I still have almost no energy for friends during the week, but make sure to plan well in advance and reserve energy or take time off if needed to attend regular events. This still isn’t enough social interaction for me, but the stress of the transition stuff and a major promotion at work with tons more responsibility this year has made it all I could handle. Especially after some major relationship drama tied to starting my transition last year.

Anyway, long story…well…it’s hard transitioning from school life where you’re forced together with people, to work life where positive, lasting bonds are much less likely to happen, but it still takes most of your social energy. So, getting adopted by people who thrive on social gatherings and are good at bringing people together is the way to go, but you have to be reliable to keep getting invited to things. And you aren’t likely to create a tight bond with the organizer, that type often isn’t good at deep lasting, bonds but the people they gather around them often are seeking those types of bonds.

Love those boots! I started making my own belts out of random stuff, chains, ropes, etc. Belts are great on monochrome clothes.

You’re super cute!

I recently had my vaginoplasty. I’ve had to buy fitted “women’s” jeans one size larger to fit while tucking. Looking forward to shopping for pants that actually fit once the swelling is completely resolved.

The term is outdated, IMHO, anyway, and has been misappropriated by TERFs these days. Outdated because it assumes strict binary genders on both sides. I don’t usually date men, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t sometimes some attraction, but consider myself agender, so neither lesbian, gay, nor straight can possibly apply to me without a starting gender, and I don’t discriminate against trans people and the terms totally exclude other non-binary people who could be my partners. So, polysexual is a good term that I’ve found useful at times, but generally I just don’t bother using any of that terminology. Every decision about my attraction and desire to date someone is specific to that person, not defined by their gender necessarily. So, I use pansexual if forced because it doesn’t limit anything up front. But, I don’t usually have much desire to advertise my sexuality anymore because the terminology is just so imprecise anyway.

It will just be “separate” but still “equal” like domestic partnerships were before. Same with mixed race marriages which will be not far down the line. “Leave it up to the states” or whatever, right? “It was never a problem in the 50s”, right?

In my experience it’s a safety issue kind of thing. If you’re in a place with restrooms that are shady and there are a lot of shady people, like dive bars or less high end clubs, then usually use the buddy system. Even if you don’t need to use the restroom if someone says they’re going, then go with them. You can always tweak makeup and hair until they’re done. That’s how I usually do it. Not quite as necessary in higher end clubs with good security or where the restrooms are individual ones so you’d have to wait outside anyway, like in many independent restaurants, it’s not as convenient. Anyway, more of a safety issue than social in my experience.

Wish it was that simple. Not so much in the US, unless you show no outward signs of being trans and your identity documents also magically transformed and your family and employer don’t remember your AGAB. Friends aren’t an issue since I get to pick those and picked well.

Assuming it’s small talk…if it’s interesting, then it heals. But slower because time also dilates. lol

As someone who used to have sex with women with my penis when i had one, lube would get rubbed off at the beginning if the vagina was not naturally lubricated and you didn’t use enough. It’s always a good idea to either apply an excess of lube to the tip so it pushes in further, or pull out a bit as soon as there is resistance so the tip is relubricated by the stuff that was rubbed off on the walls earlier and reinsert (often a few gentle pushes would do the trick), or totally remove, apply more, and reinsert if there wasn’t enough applied in the first place.

This is especially true with lubes that are less liquid and so tend to rub off of the shaft/dilator/toy before it gets to depth. Same concept applies in plumbing and other jobs that use certain types of lubricants. Things like certain silicone and oil lubrication (and Teflon and graphite lubricants for plastics and metals, not body parts) don’t have this problem as much as they adhere better to the object being inserted and/or use a slightly different mechanism for reducing friction.

So, if they can’t preside over a wedding, they shouldn’t be allowed to preside over any cases that involve LGBTQ+ people since there’s a possibility that they are religiously obligated to imprison or murder such people based on many “sincerely held beliefs” and since they have the power to do those things legally, it sure seems like a perceived conflict of interest. Or something along those lines should be true. So, if any use this to decline to marry, then I hope lawyers will use that to their advantage against that judge in their own cases.

Tangent perhaps, but is there a good, up to date list of LGBTQ+, ND, or other minority owned online businesses for various things? It’s always hard to find legitimate ones. Many times large corps have swallowed them up or they were just LLCs of a large corp with a figurehead minority leader for marketing.