Talk of sex, rape and violence

  • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOPM
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    4 months ago

    Porn in theory I have zero issues with, sex work is work. My issue is the content and the fact it’s not well regulated.

    Content… there’s so much choking, violence, verbal abuse and sexual assault/incest. What really concerns me is I’ve never seen a film where they discuss boundaries and safewords at the start. It takes under a minute! “I’m so horny! Just fyi I don’t do ABC but love DEF. Safeword is pineapple. What about you?” Choking is a known danger flag in DA and its being normalised in porn with no safety net.

    Then there’s the type of sex. People are fetishised a lot (“exotic”, trans etc) which is dangerous. Anal is everywhere, and IME a lot of young people think they HAVE to do it. So much porn is the man jack hammering away and I’ve NEVER known a woman that’s liked that start to finish in sex. Shaved or at least styled vaginas are expected, and theres rarely condoms. What kind of ideas are young people getting about what’s normal in sex?

    The industry isn’t well regulated. You regularly see videos where people look at best uncomfortable, and they’re often really young. There’s a lot of abuse in the industry and it’s really not ok.

    I do wonder, if it wasn’t young women at risk, would there be more action?

    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      4 months ago

      On the anal subject, discovering bottoming (I’m a trans woman) was one of the best things to happen to me and I’m really shattered that I can’t really do it anymore. I would hate for anyone to feel pressured into thinking they have to, definitely not for everyone, but I’m glad it’s getting more normalized and is becoming less… fetishy and a bit stigmatized? I don’t know, it can be hard to sort out how I feel about sexual things like this and how it differs from how other people may because of my gender identity. Having a prostate definitely makes it more pleasurable but it’s still only part of the equation. Maybe I found it so much more fulfilling (ha) because I’m wired for being penetrated instead of penetrating? (Which ofc not necessarily a gender thing but it is generally related) I guess my rambly point is, I’m kind of glad it’s being seen less as some extreme thing and more people might discover that they really enjoy it too.

      • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOPM
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        4 months ago

        I totally see your point and I’m glad it’s helped. It’s maybe helped gay men as well, there’s less stigma against what they do

    • Malgas@beehaw.org
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      4 months ago

      I don’t do ABC but love DEF.

      I spent entirely too long trying to figure out what those acronyms stood for. 🤦‍♀️

    • guy@piefed.social
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      4 months ago

      Good post! But damn, having the start of a porno beginning with a discussion about safewords and boundaries would probably be severely off putting

      • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        4 months ago

        Really depends on the genre and the watcher. I think for more kink focused stuff, having that included could definitely make it hotter sometimes, for me anyway. I don’t know how good of a litmus I am for that, but there’s probably at least some level of commonality there