Continuation of this thread.
I asked him to consider why, despite having been anti-abortion for a long time, he never bothered to learn about the effects of pregnancy and childbirth on women’s bodies and whether that constituted a severe failure to prioritize on his part. He told me to, basically, shut up and stop talking about it. At this point, I agreed with him that I would not change his mind and told him that I’d rather not speak with him anymore, for the same reason that
CW: Misogyny, SV
I would not want to associate with someone who supports legalizing maritalremoved.
A few minutes later, I got this email:
You know, I tried to say “Let’s avoid this topic.” And then you make ridiculous statements such as accusing me of “not caring about women.” Something you damn well know is false. And you rage quit when you get upset.
The bottom line is that you are a narcissist. You are a person who cares about no one and nobody except yourself and your own self-gratification. I’m sorry, but you really are. You take pleasure in putting other people down knowing they will come crawling back to you because they need a friend. Only so that you can abuse them some more.
Well, there is no hope for ever fixing a narcissist. So you are right, this relationship is toxic. You cannot be fixed. And I am done being your victim.
Dude needs a goddamn IMAX screen for all the projecting he’s doing.
Seems like you’re much better off not associating with someone like this. If you have any mutual friends/acquaintances, this person is probably going to spin some sob story to them about how awful a person you are, including lying about what you actually said to them, and definitely lying about what they said, so expect quite a few odd conversations where someone thinks you did and said awful things. But anyone who takes the word of someone like this that you are an “abuser” or whatever psychology term they choose to misuse is probably going to also be a negative influence on your life.
I’ve got a lot of experience with dealing with the fallout of rejecting a (clinically diagnosed) narcissist and cutting them out of my life, so feel free to DM me if you need to talk about unexpected things happening with this :)
To the extent that we have any at all, I’m much closer to them than he is, so I’m not too worried. I do appreciate the offer, though