Long story short I had a shower thought about how I enjoy seeing bearish men and my fantasy scenarios involve me either being one or seeing one in action. While I have no urge to actually sleep with or be romantic with men, I wonder what that says about me? I’ll easily admit I find these men attractive and yet I don’t want to actually pursue them. But I still find them dead sexy and, ah, it’s confusing.
Anyone out there that can chime in about how I feel?
i never knew that was a thing… i just thought i was weird
It is interesting how a lack of words to describe something can make you feel like it’s impossible or weird. I can’t say how common it is but I have come across several people who described a similar sexual aromantic attraction to a subset of people.
yeah truly. I’d heard of the sexuality spectrum before, but in a broad overview that didn’t seem to match my own feelings and desires. Interally I’ve just told myself I guess I’m bisexual, but that never really seemed right because in my head I never seperated out romance from just sexual attraction which seemed to be a contradiction didn’t make sense. In some ways I thought maybe I’m just gay and can’t admit it to myself, but that never really rang true either because I’m very much attracted to women both sexually and emotionally.
I’ll admit I’ve never done any deep exploring on the subject, probably partly because of how I was raised, and partly because I’m a bit of a coward.