Long story short I had a shower thought about how I enjoy seeing bearish men and my fantasy scenarios involve me either being one or seeing one in action. While I have no urge to actually sleep with or be romantic with men, I wonder what that says about me? I’ll easily admit I find these men attractive and yet I don’t want to actually pursue them. But I still find them dead sexy and, ah, it’s confusing.
Anyone out there that can chime in about how I feel?
bearish huhcheck back in a year
Idk sexuality is a spectrum don’t overthink it 🤷♀️
Yeah that’s a thing. I think dudes are hot in the abstract but IRL they’re frankly just too warm and I found out Im not big on smooching stubble
I first thought I was just admiring attractive people of the same gender, and then later figured out I am actually bi. So it can definitely be vague like that and takes time to figure out what it really means for you. It’s a very individual thing, but you’re definitely not an unusual case based on what you’ve typed here. Try not to pressure yourself to figure it out or label yourself until you feel ready to.
No comment on the whole bear fantasy, but it’s called the Kinsey Scale.
Kinsey Scale
According to an online test I score a 2: “This makes you heterosexual with more than incidental homosexual tendencies.”
It’s a good start.
I also scored 2 on the kinsey scale.
I’m gay and find women attractive 🤷
I think I know what you mean… I’ve always kinda had a thing for dudes where I’d like to jerk and whatever with one but I don’t like the idea of actually being in a relationship or kissing or anything. I do wanna get railed and suck someone off but just NSA, nothing else… it’s such a confusing thing.
It’s quite common to be sexually attracted to a a subset of people but not romantically. Like you can be sexually bisexual and romantically straight. Or sexually mostly straight but still sexually attracted to a very small subset of your gender.
The labels we have and use are often not sufficient to describe the wide range of possibilities in sexuality.
i never knew that was a thing… i just thought i was weird
It is interesting how a lack of words to describe something can make you feel like it’s impossible or weird. I can’t say how common it is but I have come across several people who described a similar sexual aromantic attraction to a subset of people.
yeah truly. I’d heard of the sexuality spectrum before, but in a broad overview that didn’t seem to match my own feelings and desires. Interally I’ve just told myself I guess I’m bisexual, but that never really seemed right because in my head I never seperated out romance from just sexual attraction which seemed to be a contradiction didn’t make sense. In some ways I thought maybe I’m just gay and can’t admit it to myself, but that never really rang true either because I’m very much attracted to women both sexually and emotionally.
I’ll admit I’ve never done any deep exploring on the subject, probably partly because of how I was raised, and partly because I’m a bit of a coward.
An aspec of a-spec communities that I’ve found helpful is the idea not just of romantic and sexual attractions and the possibility that they can diverge, but that you can experience other forms of attraction too, like aesthetic, emotional, or platonic. Still don’t really know if I’m incredibly ace, or incredibly bi, or both, but every now and then for a moment it seems like it helps something click for me.
I think most bi people lean towards one end of the spectrum or the other tbh
Playing with fire 2. NSFW hori, some slurs, but you might appreciate the plot.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Even with bi’s I know there is rarely a 50/50 split in their interests. There’s a spectrum on that. And kink / vanilla is it’s own thing too.
Holy shit is that an aniki movie? Aniki!!!
Why yes it is. They got a whole “SFW” sterilized versions of the Catalina Collection up there.
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
Yeah. I’m queer as fuck but that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to everyone, or even equally to all genders. Gender is a spectrum, so is sexuality.
Follow what makes your heart sing. If a bearish guy approached you, respectfully, and hit on you - follow your heart. If its telling you go for it and makeout with him or more, and if during that youre into it then thats all good. Just something new about yourself.
From the other bi people I know, sometimes one gender is harder to hit on than the other. Sometimes guys are easier, sometimes girls, whatever. If you feel attracted to (specific kinds of) men but dont want to pursue them, that doesnt have to mean much of anything~
Also if you end up being bi, enjoy the bi-cycle where sometimes youre super into opposite gender people and wonder if youre bi until yo get hit by the same gender attraction and you go “oh yeah, I am” and sometimes it swings the other way too.
