When I get bored with the conversation/tired of arguing I will simply tersely agree with you and then stop responding. I’m too old for this stuff.

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  • Oh, also… have a long term plan. Just being in your adopted country is not enough long term. Research details of getting a permanent residence or a citizenship BEFORE you decide on a country, and when you find out the requirements, take them seriously. The last thing you want is to spend longer than you have to on a work visa, because that’s a precarious position to be in. If you think having your health insurance tied to your job is a hassle, try having your very presence in the country tied to it. Some countries will have language requirements for both citizenship and permanent residency, and you should get on that right away if that’s the case. Getting the permanent residence or the citizenship is, to use a metaphor, sitting at a bonfire. It gives you a beachhead and takes the pressure off. Target one and push towards it.


  • As someone who did it, my advice is, don’t wait for a great work opportunity… Take whatever you can to get out and try to move up once you’re already established. Of course, it depends on the country you’re targeting, so ymmv.

    I feel like a major issue is a lot of people feel like they want to get into another country at an equivalent level of where they would be in the US, but unless you’re world-class in a high demand field, it’s very hard to start above the first rung in your new country, especially if you’re not fluent in the native language. You might have to put pride aside and take what you can get to start. Personally, especially for younger people, I feel like it’s worth it. It’s a trial by fire but the satisfaction at the other end is second to none.













  • You know, I don’t even disagree with that sentiment in principle, but expecting people to suffer when they could benefit from a technology because they only see the threats and dangers makes them no different than antivaxxers.

    It is possible and logically consistent to urge caution and condemn the worst abuses of technology without throwing the baby out with the bath water.

    But no… I guess because the awful aspects of the technology as far as IP theft are - rightfully - the biggest focus, sorry, poor people, you just have to keep sucking it up and powering through! You want empathy, fork over the $100 an hour!



  • Look, if you can afford therapy, really, fantastic for you. But the fact is, it’s an extremely expensive luxury, even at poor quality, and sharing or unloading your mental strain with your friends or family, particularly when it is ongoing, is extremely taxing on relationships. Sure, your friends want to be there for you when they can, but it can put a major strain depending on how much support you need. If someone can alleviate that pressure and that stress even a little bit by talking to a machine, it’s in extremely poor taste and shortsighted to shame them for it. Yes, they’re willfully giving up their privacy, and yes, it’s awful that they have to do that, but this isn’t like sharing memes… in the hierarchy of needs, getting the pressure of those those pent up feelings out is important enough to possibly be worth the trade-off. Is it ideal? Absolutely not. Would it be better if these systems were anonymized? Absolutely. But humans are natural anthropomorphizers. They develop attachments and build relationships with inanimate objects all the time. And a really good therapist is more a reflection for you to work through things yourself anyway, mostly just guiding your thoughts towards better patterns of thinking. There’s no reason the machine can’t do that, and while it’s not as good as a human, it’s a HUGE improvement on average over nothing at all.