just an annoying weed 😭
I feel you, I live in the South in the U.S. in one of the most transphobic states. I was terrified to come out, but it ended up going much better than I expected. For the most part people just didn’t care, and the worst I got were stares usually from older or hyper-masculine men.
EDIT: this made me think that a lot of that fear was oversized, more in my head than reality. Transphobic violence is real, but is mostly targeted against poor trans women of color.
my larynx goes up high when I sneeze and usually I sound pretty cute, this was actually a problem for me pre-transition
coughing on the other hand, is harder - I always want to open my chest and lungs and cough deeply, which uh, sounds not feminine
what country? I’ve heard there is an organization called the rainbow railroad that helps people escape certain places
Here in the South a telltale sign seems to be when they talk shit about their wife with their friends, it’s like a point of commiseration that seems to generalize to misogyny, the whole “women, eh?”.
That’s great!! 🥳
Hoping your appointment with the new GYN goes well 💕
yeah, and I’m not familiar with whether the ASD matches the postural issues linked in the articles you shared - sounds more like ADHD than ASD. Interesting!
It’s more ambiguous in my case, I can’t tell whether I have ASD or ADHD or both, lol
Might also look into ASD, sometimes ASD can be the underlying cause of ADHD symptoms, see:
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.837424/full
How you react to stimulants might help differentiate, people with ADHD usually respond to stimulant medication differently.
Also, there is suspected overlap in the genetic causes of ASD and gender dysphoria:
https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/104/2/390/5104458
Polymorphisms in two genes were overrepresented in transgender women by allele analysis but not by the (more stringent) genotype analysis.
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Second, the G allele in STS is associated with reduced enzyme levels; this has been noted mostly in studies of ADHD (41), a condition with fivefold increased incidence of gender dysphoria (42), suggesting a possible overlap in etiology.
and ASD and ADHD both are associated with higher rates of gender dysphoria:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24619651/
As compared to non-referred comparisons, participants with ASD were 7.59 times more likely to express gender variance; participants with ADHD were 6.64 times more likely to express gender variance.
Either way, congrats on moving forward with diagnosis!
pretty much agree with all of that 👍
honestly I can’t tell whether a plurality of men think women are humans, let alone trans women …
EDIT:
Lesbian, gay and bisexual women overwhelmingly identify with or lean toward the Democratic Party over the GOP (83% vs. 12%). Similarly, the Democratic Party enjoys a wide advantage among gay and bisexual men (83% vs. 17%).
Straight men are more likely to associate with the Republican Party than straight women (55% vs. 47%).
(source)
Men generally, but straight (and married esp.) men, seem to be “the problem”.
oo, that makes sense - I’m starting to suspect I might be neurodivergent, so it might turn out to be a semi-appropriate label for me 😅
The hands on the doorknob hurt so much - I can feel it just from your description, it almost makes me feel sick, lol
omg I feel that so much
I have:
I am usually paying attention (I think) and able to see well (I think); I suspect my proprioception is just off. When I was a kid, the ball often hit me in the face when attempting to play sports. I had a hard time coordinating my body, even when trying. There was a notable improvement when I started estrogen, I was able to navigate in the dark better than before, but I still run into objects so it could just be placebo.
fingers crossed …
I think birth control is usually a combination of synthetic estrogen and progestin, whereas HRT would probably be bioidentical estrogen (less risky).
I could see why a doctor would be worried a blood test would be thrown off by the synthetic estrogens in the birth control pill, because it might lower your body’s production of estrogen as it relies on the synthetic stuff.
You are still left with a situation where it seems like your levels are too low and you are having symptoms, so you might still need a higher dose to compensate for menopause and to alleviate your symptoms.
You might also look into a birth control pill that is a progestogen-only pill and then introduce bioidentical estrogen for HRT (ideally as a cream or patch, oral estrogen is poorly absorbed and is metabolized in spikes which creates mood swings and results in uneven blood levels, just an awful way to get estrogen in the body tbh).
Either way, I would advocate for getting more estrogen in your body somehow, because what you are describing (night sweats, anxiety, brain fog, etc.) all sound exactly like the symptoms of low estrogen.
that sounds like low estrogen, have you considered hormone replacement therapy?
For what it’s worth, /c/AskTransgender exists for asking questions too, and I suspect transition questions are welcome here in /c/Trans as well as places like /c/mtf. My point is that you don’t have to take on creating and moderating a community to help build a knowledge base here in Lemmy, there are people here willing to help. I suspect a lot of us are sensitive to the reliance on wikis on Reddit, for example.
I’m happy to try to help answer questions to the best of my ability, I’m fresh into transition myself, less than 2 years into it, and I tend to be the kind of person who has a million questions myself and I spend a lot of time seeking answers 😅
Finished:
Currently watching:
Daughter speaking though
It’s actually mom here, also.
I am actually dying rn
your hair looks amazing, that picture really brings out the color and looks great!!
I was feeling really bad about myself yesterday, it was just an off day - but today I got my shit together and used construction adhesive to glue a baseboard to a concrete wall in my basement … I thought this was going to be pretty easy - was I ever wrong, I had so much trouble:
The adhesive didn’t fit in my caulk gun at first, I had to literally warp the plastic to get it to finally fit (they look like the right size, no idea what’s up, I would have thought this was standardized).
Once I had the adhesive on the baseboard and I put the board up against the wall, I realized the concrete wall was not flat and there were gaps between the board and the wall 😱
So then I found some hand weights and put them up against the board to at least have some pressure against the board so it’s a little more flush. I read online that some people drive screws or nails through the concrete, and that was well beyond what I could do in a pinch to help this board cure flush against the wall … someone mentioned using a 2x4 and wedging it against the opposite wall - so I went around looking for scraps, piling as many of my home gym weights as possible against the baseboard as I could (only mildly helpful).
Alas I had no 2x4 pieces long enough to work, but I found some scrap wood that was maybe half the length, and brought those to see if I could wedge it diagonally. No luck, unfortunately.
Then I thought to put the long pieces together as though they were one long piece, and then add some shims and other scrap pieces to create enough length that it built tension against the baseboard and it sorta works! I did take an inch long splinter into my hand in the process, though - and now I’m nursing my wounds feeling half accomplished.
Was it a win? I don’t know, but I’m going to boldly claim it was anyway. (Related: Why is there no emoji of someone posting a flag at the top of a mountain?)
it really do be bad - though obviously violence exists against all LGBT+ identities, by the numbers it hits trans women of color the hardest, and these women are more likely to be sex workers, more likely to contract HIV, and more likely to be victims of crime. Women in general are at greater risk of being a victim of violent crime.