I was pondering what I wanted to put in this post for a while, and I feel the obvious thing would have been for me to info dump about a math thing. Yes, the urge is strong… but maybe next time. This time I want to go for pizzazz – oomph, if you will. I have another obsession I have not yet graced our corner of the internet with: the color orange.
Let us all take a moment to bathe in the excellence of orange. You may use the shrine below to aid in your meditations:
various shades of orange I find visually appealing
(i totally forgot to sit down and type out something more substantial and less stupid lol)
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[CW: Woke Transphobia/Bioessentialism]
Just watched a livestream where a “leftist” YouTuber said something along the lines of, “If women, I mean AFAB people, ruled the world, we’d be more in touch with nature because men or AMABs function differently biologically.”
This is your average person on the left honestly. Highly performative and trying to sound inclusive but just end up expressing reactionary ideas anyway. She really tried hard to shoehorn saying “AFAB” and “AMAB” here. I’m sick.
Unsurprisingly a honky too.
JBB's dating adventure
If you’re reading this, thank you for putting up with me and my rambling.
So, in addition to chatting on a more vanilla app, I have set up a profile on a kink-focused app. IDK if there will be any interest in my profile, but it was nice setting up something more raw and direct about what I am interested in sexually. Definitely a bit nervous, but excited to see how it goes. Will stay safe, don’t worry.
JBB's dating adventure - an unexpected twist!
Well, that was fast.
Matched with another nerdy transfemme who’s understanding of my inexperience and it sounds like we might have compatibility as play partners. We have an in person meet-up/vibe check scheduled for next Saturday to talk more. I got some reading to do to make sure that I’m going into things grounded.
I also think I might be poly, at least in that I am beginning to understand that I have various needs that are unlikely to be satisfied by the same person, and that ethical non-monogamy is better than either putting an unfair expectation on a single partner or letting those unmet needs fester and undermine a relationship. But I guess that’s in the abstract and I won’t know for sure until rubber hits the road.
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It certainly doesn’t hurt to try out being poly. I would recommend checking out Polysecure and make sure you’re communicating well with people.
What’s the kink-focused app, btw?
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Thanks for the rec. I have a lot of reading to do between now and then to make sure that I’m going in to things well grounded.
Was using Feeld. I liked a few people that seemed like they might be compatible from their profiles, and I guess one of them was active and liked me back. I broke the ice well enough, and after a bit of chit-chat I laid out what I was looking for and we got to talking about that. I am really glad that I went as clear and direct as possible, as opposed to playing cute. Obviously, it’s really important for this type of thing.
