I’m sorry I’m so sad and I don’t have any friend to whom I can come out and I HATE SEEING MYSELF IN REFLECTIONS 😭😭😭
Sure we can be friends. I’m not as chronically online as I used to be but we can still play Minecraft together if you want
I don’t have Minecraft but I can get it, I usually play on phone IDK if you play bedrock?
waves hi Una!
Hi! 🩷🫂
I don’t expect that this will be particularly reassuring, but I’m a cis woman who heavily relates to many of the bad feels you describe wrt your self image: I often feel like I’m crushed by the pressure of gendered expectations, and that I am failing at being a woman. Of course, I know the sensible thing would be to break free of the misogynistic standards that I will never fit neatly into, and to present in a way that’s most authentic to who I feel I am. Alas, doing that is harder than it sounds, because any self image I may try to build for myself will be inevitably tainted by my knowledge of how the world sees me.
Some days I feel better about myself, but there are many more where I am reminded of how internalised misogyny and queerphobia I need to unpack. Part of why I love being in community with trans folk (especially trans women) is that I feel more free to explore how I want to present myself to the world, rather than feeling like I’m failing at being a woman.
Your relationship with your body will be quite different than my own, but in one of your comments on this post, you acknowledged that you probably don’t look as bad as you feel (but you still feel bad tho). That was really relatable to me, and why I wrote this comment. I hope the solidarity helps somewhat.
sorry the world is so shitty, hope things turn out better for you against all odds
Hi Una! I’m also a sad trans girl stuck in a transphobic environment, just fighting what feels like a losing battle to keep myself going somehow until I can hopefully see a future for myself one day.
With that unsolicited trauma dump out of the way - I don’t log in that often, but know that I’ll be rooting for you <3
I love you! 🩷🩷🩷 You are beautiful girl 🩷🫂🫂🫂
🫂 beautiful name btw <4
Thanks 🩷🩷🫂
i think you came to the right place una ^^
glad you’re here <3
You’re prettier than you think.
Thanks, I hate dysphoria and it’s impossible to concentrate on studying I wish I was born girl with beautiful vagina and not this stupid worm
I feel you there. Thankfully there’s solutions for that problem
You were born a girl. I’m sorry about the noodle, though. You got this.
Hi Una! Aye, even if law may not be bad, minds of societies changes much slower.
That may feel boring, You probably heard that already, but if You feel unsafe - keep Your safety as top prio, keep dreaming, delay things if needed, but stay safe, to bloom other day (if not yet today).
Then, do more research, maybe some peoples around You are not transphobic, but only uneducated? Maybe there is some sanctuary around? Maybe other, hidden pro-lgbt persons are nearby (if You are afraid, they probably are afraid too, and hidden)?
Much HUGSIE from similar country not so far \o/
Thanks, hug I found online another trans girl from same country and we talk to each other. Also I was on boo dating app and found awesome queer friends
I’ll be anybody’s friend if they will be mine, I have some contact details in my about me.
Hi! Another trans girl here! Feel free to message me if you want. I can also share my discord details.
hugs
what country? I’ve heard there is an organization called the rainbow railroad that helps people escape certain places
From Croatia, and while laws are not necessarily transphobic (I think I can still transition) society still is especially in smaller towns
I feel you, I live in the South in the U.S. in one of the most transphobic states. I was terrified to come out, but it ended up going much better than I expected. For the most part people just didn’t care, and the worst I got were stares usually from older or hyper-masculine men.
EDIT: this made me think that a lot of that fear was oversized, more in my head than reality. Transphobic violence is real, but is mostly targeted against poor trans women of color.
America is kinda weird like that where being a “freak” is almost seen as cool by everyone, but there’s still mad bigotry. i really don’t know how else to explain it, but there’s a live and let live attitude where people just want everyone to leave each other the fuck alone
It’s true, I think it’s that being a freak stimulates people’s hyper-individualism, while the “man in a dress” (the feminine gender expression on a “male”) stimulates certain men’s homophobia (fear they might accidentally find me attractive) and insecurities in their masculinity (a generalized tendency to engage other men in a way that puts down femininity and promotes hyper-masculinity).
For the most part I was only ever bothered by overly aggressive men who would probably have been assholes in the world generally - it seemed to me the problem was with them and their fragile masculinity more than anything else.
poor trans women of color
The more of these words apply to you, the worse it is:
- poor
- trans
- woman
- of color
it really do be bad - though obviously violence exists against all LGBT+ identities, by the numbers it hits trans women of color the hardest, and these women are more likely to be sex workers, more likely to contract HIV, and more likely to be victims of crime. Women in general are at greater risk of being a victim of violent crime.
Isn’t Croatia in the EU? If so have you considered moving to a country that.s less transphobic?
I did, ever since I was child I always wanted to go somewhere where no one knows me and live life as a woman, but right now I can’t go because I go to university and plan to finish it and maybe find job in food industry somewhere outside.
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I’m sorry things are so hard and I hope so much they get easier for you.
Thanks, love you 🫂🫂 it’s better I’ve found another trans person from my country and we have been talking to each other
That’s wonderful to hear. I’m not trans or from your country but I’m always willing to be a friend who will hear you and never judge you for being who you are 🫂
Hugs, girl. ♥️♥️♥️
Hugg! 🫂🫂 I love hugs and I love platonic friendships hugs are best 🫂🫂
