Think about it this way: if the woman you were dating, or married to for ten years, suddenly told you she wasn’t, and never had been, attracted to you, but was merely faking it the entire time because she wanted you to care for her, would you be aggrieved? Even if you tried to do it in the most earnest and caring manner possible, by trying to be the perfect partner and doing everything else that’s a part of a relationship besides being attracted to them, it would still be a horrendous gut punch to your partner when they found out.